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20VC:为20VC募资4亿美元:融资经验|通过53封冷邮件拿下Marc Benioff:如何掌握冷启动外联|从101位十角兽创始人身上学到的7条经验——Harry Stebbings(Simon Squibb专辑)

Harry StebbingsSimon Squibb

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TL;DR
  • 这段起源故事浓缩了整套方法:19岁时,为筹母亲治疗MS的75万美元药费,Stebbings给25位科技公司CEO发邮件,声称他们最大的竞争对手想赞助自己的零听众播客,并将赞助报价定为每家9.5万美元——“刚好低于10万美元的采购预算”,最终19人答应:“24小时内拿到175万美元”。真正可迁移的洞见是:他利用了“名人的自负与不安全感”,即使没有听众,也通过FOMO和个性化PS促成交易。
  • 冷启动外联是会复利的资产,不是数字游戏。邮件必须短、简洁、有明确诉求,而且要个性化;加上一条PS(“我知道Macallan 75是你最喜欢的威士忌”),“回复概率直接变成3倍”。他每个周日给Marc Benioff发邮件,连续发了53次,直到对方回复“好,我加入”——而他早已想好下一步:把53封邮件做成病毒式传播的推文,再借此获得社会证明,拿下“下一个Marc Benioff”。
  • 他在为4亿美元基金募资期间,通过WhatsApp募得7000万美元,在健身组间休息时给潜在出资人发消息,对方回复“算我100万美元”“算我200万美元”。他的做法是:“把人从邮件里带出来……人会与人产生共鸣”;周末和母亲一起吃甜甜圈的照片,也是在建立关系。但他坚持提醒:“别人看不到的是,此前10年的关系积累。”
  • “分发能力是价值的最大决定因素。”如今人人都有风险投资基金,但并非人人都有分发能力。证据是:他在LinkedIn上发了一条关于被投公司Fixa(邮件自动补全工具)的帖子,就带来了400万美元收入——“一个投资人靠一条帖子给你带来400万美元……这才是真正的价值,而且我们有数据证明。”进一步的判断是:创作者会变成公司(CR7“是一个和Starbucks一样大的品牌”),既然如此,为什么要替别人的品牌做推广,而不是拥有一个自己的品牌——MrBeast Burgers则说明了选品的重要性。
  • 永远不要接受“不”。两位LP拒绝他后,他回信说:“因为觉得对方很优秀、但不喜欢其所在市场,我错过了5亿美元的投资……我担心你现在犯了同样的错误。”第二天早上他给两人打电话,最终分别拿到500万美元和700万美元。“如果你接受了‘不’,基金里就不会有那1200万美元。”
  • 他认为财富积累的机制“不公平但真实”:应该“激进地追逐赚到第一个100万美元”,因为第一个100万美元明显最难赚,而“这个世界会让有钱人变得更有钱”——更好的银行、更高的利率、更好的产品和更多的资源。但不要追逐金钱本身:他的第一个100万美元换来的,是独自坐在Fulham阳台上喝龙舌兰、抽烟;真正让他快乐的是“5英镑60便士”——和母亲在Hyde Park散步时喝两杯浓缩咖啡。
  • 做内容的生存法则是:50美元的Amazon麦克风,花3年变得专业,花4年做到1000次播放——“这是一场比谁活得更久的游戏”;“如果你失败了,是因为没人关心。而如果没人关心,就没人知道你失败了。那你为什么不干脆做呢?”
摘要 · 为研究而整理的核心内容

1. 19岁时24小时拿到175万美元——启动一切的FOMO交易

  • 按他的说法,母亲的MS药物治疗费用高达75万美元,而他当时有一个“没用的播客,根本没有听众”。他在卧室里给25位科技行业最大公司的CEO发邮件,声称他们最大的竞争对手想赞助这个播客,但自己更喜欢他们的产品——他们愿不愿意接下这笔赞助?每家报价9.5万美元,“刚好低于10万美元的采购预算”,最终19人答应:“24小时内拿到175万美元。”
  • 他总结出两个关键要素:制造FOMO,加上个人魅力——“每个人都想和自己喜欢的人一起工作”。每封邮件最后都写着:“P.S. 我知道Macallan 75是你最喜欢的威士忌。下次你来伦敦时,我很乐意和你喝一杯。”这一句话“直接让你获得回复的概率变成3倍”。
  • Simon 对这件事的解释值得保留:Harry不只是想要这笔钱,他是非要这笔钱不可。“我认为,这是人们唯一需要拨动的开关。”Harry自己的说法更直接:“我利用了名人和成功人士的自负与不安全感来赚钱。”

2. 把冷启动外联做成一门手艺:给Benioff发53封邮件,再用社会证明形成飞轮

  • 他让107位亿万富翁上节目的方法,是发送“短、简洁、有明确诉求且个性化”的冷邮件,然后把社会证明变成武器——“我刚采访了Richard Branson,很希望你也来参加。谁会不想和Richard Branson处在同一个品牌层级上?”Simon回忆自己创办Fluid时也遇到过类似情况:一位潜在客户说“我们很忙”,但当他可以说“我正在和CNN合作”时,对方立刻改口:“好啊,进来聊聊。”
  • Benioff的完整故事是:连续53个周日,每周发一封邮件,每次都附上全新的个性化PS(“希望X地天气不错——我知道你在那里有一套度假屋”)。第53封发出后,对方回复:“好,我加入”,并把自己的团队抄送进来。Harry自己也承认:“换成我是他,我早就把自己拉黑了。”
  • 真正的元经验,是内容上要提前想好下一步:Benioff答应的那一刻,“你知道我在想什么吗?他妈的病毒式推特”。这条53封邮件的邮件串,把“身家1000亿美元的人”转化成可复利的证明:“你可以拿着它去找下一个Marc Benioff,对他说,嗨,我发这种推文都能火。”
  • 嘉宾飞轮的做法是:每期节目结束时,他都会问对方“你觉得我还应该邀请哪3个人”,等对方说出名字后再问:“你介意帮我引荐吗?”“任何生意都要不断搭建飞轮,让一个成功带来更多成功。每做一期节目,我就多拿到3个引荐。”

3. 通过WhatsApp募得7000万美元——以及为什么仍然要追逐第一个100万美元

  • 他的具体做法是:在健身组间休息、两分钟空档里,给有钱人发消息:“嘿,我准备募一支新基金,很希望你能参与。”收到的回复是:“算我100万美元”“算我200万美元。”他的纪律要求是:把人从邮件里带出来。“每次通话结束,我都会说:‘Simon,我不擅长邮件。我们转到WhatsApp吧。’”接着,他会在周末发自己和母亲一起吃甜甜圈的照片。“人会与人产生共鸣。”
  • 他也给这套做法加了一个限定条件:“别人看不到的是,此前10年的关系积累。”
  • 关于财富复利,他把这件不舒服的事实说得很直白:“要激进地追逐赚到第一个100万美元……最难赚的绝对是第一个100万美元。而这个世界会让有钱人变得更有钱”——他们拥有更高端的银行、更高的利率、更好的产品和更多的资源。“这感觉不对。但世界就是不公平,也不正确……它释放出的机会远超你的预期。”

4. 英国的负面主义问题——以及为什么最大的失败最终成了最大的成功

  • 他的诊断是:“英国最大的问题是我们太消极……你提出一个想法,我们会说,‘这不可能成功。’在美国,人们会说,‘这能成功。’”他的答案是Project Europe:一支1000万美元的基金,向200名极其年轻的人各投20万美元,让他们去做“不合乎常理的宏大事情”。英国的第二种顽疾是势利:为什么剑桥物理学家要去开面包店?“如果你开出伦敦最成功的面包店……成为下一个Cédric Grolet呢?”
  • 按他的说法,失败与成功之间形成了一条链条:“因为暴食症被寄宿学校开除,改变了我的整个人生。”否则他根本不会创办媒体公司,“可能会成为一个普通的律师”。他母亲常引用Scarlett O'Hara的一句话:“明天又是新的一天”——绝不能让前一天污染下一天。
  • 这句话值得贴在墙上:“如果你有能力无缘无故地感到痛苦,你也有能力无缘无故地感到兴奋和乐观。拥抱它。”关于自我信念,他说:“听起来有点傲慢,但我一直知道自己会成功。我从来没想过事情会失败。”

5. 先开始,烧掉退路,用一个客户降低风险

  • 先做再说的数学是:99%的人永远不会开始;“只要迈出第一步,你就已经比99%的人强了。”他起步时非常糟糕——用的是Amazon上50美元的冰球形麦克风,“大概花了3年我才算变得不错……花了4年才做到1000次播放”。Simon也有类似经历:连续6年创业,“前3年什么都没有”。Harry的结论是:“大多数人会放弃。这是一场比谁活得更久的游戏。”
  • 内容创作的可贵之处在于默默无闻:“如果你失败了,是因为没人关心。而如果没人关心,就没人知道你失败了。那你为什么不干脆做呢?”
  • 他从King's College辍学的决定,也有明确的降风险过程:当时他是学法律的奖学金学生,接到一通10万美元赞助电话后,自己Google如何写合同;随后他问法律教授的工资,对方回答“8.2万”,他想:“好,这就是我的答案。”Simon将其概括为:可以先拿到一个客户,来降低启动风险。Harry的做法是,先向一家公司推销“我可以用AI彻底改变你们的招聘”,拿到3万美元承诺后再离职。“有时你必须烧掉退路,才能逼自己行动。”

6. 分发能力是价值的最大决定因素

  • 他的基金之所以有效,是因为:“如今人人都有一支风险投资基金,遗憾的是。但并非人人都有分发能力。”数据点是:他在LinkedIn上发了一条关于被投公司Fixa——一款邮件自动补全工具——的帖子,仅一条帖子就带来了“400万美元收入……这才是真正的价值,而且我们有数据证明”。
  • 他和Simon共同搭建出的创作者即公司的判断是:平台先后捕获了注意力——Facebook,随后是Snapchat和Instagram;Simon认为,下一个大平台就是创作者本人。Simon正在推出一个Starbucks的竞争品牌,而不是向一个自己并不相信的品牌收取赞助费;Harry对此表示认同:“如今人就是公司。Cristiano Ronaldo,CR7,是一个和Starbucks一样大的品牌……他已经不再只是一个人。”警示案例是MrBeast Burgers:“产品选得不好,质量也很难监控。”所以产品必须选对,因为质量和交付都可能难以监督。
  • 对于复制,他指出大多数想成为创作者的人“只是照搬有效的东西”。Simon在街头使用的开场白“你的梦想是什么”,就是一个反例:“我当时就想,妈的,我加入。”但Simon也强调,这个钩子是不断迭代出来的,并非一开始就设计完成:最初版本“你会创办什么生意?”“效果不太好……我只是每天不断执行,直到它变得更好。”
  • 谈到护城河时,他引用“亲爱的朋友”、Spotify CEO Gustav Söderström 的话——按节目中的CEO身份表述:“细节不是细节。它们就是产品。”Harry的版本是:“一家公司的防御力来自每天执行的流程,以及长期持续这些流程的能力。它很少真正来自产品本身。产品只是最终输出。”

7. 金钱、幸福与行动框架:Pat Grady、枕边话和四个炉灶

  • 永远不要接受“不”,而且要有结果作证:两个人拒绝他后,他回复:“因为觉得对方很优秀、但不喜欢他们所在的市场,我错过了5亿美元的投资……我担心你现在犯了同样的错误。”第二天早上他分别打电话过去,最终拿到500万美元和700万美元。“如果你接受了‘不’,基金里就不会有那1200万美元。”
  • 他用自己的经历讲述金钱悖论:“追逐金钱不会带来金钱……当你享受做事本身的艺术时,钱只是结果。”他的第一个100万美元,换来的是一个坐在Fulham阳台上喝龙舌兰、抽烟的人——他终于能买下整桌俱乐部卡座,却没有朋友来坐。真正让他快乐的是和母亲在Hyde Park喝浓缩咖啡:“每杯浓缩咖啡2英镑80便士……5英镑60便士就是我的幸福。”
  • 他的决策框架是:找一个你愿意拥有其整段人生的人,以他为参照。对Harry来说,这个人是Sequoia的Pat Grady——“好父亲、好投资人、好丈夫”。然后问自己:“Pat会怎么做?”这通常总能引导他作出正确且体面的决定,而不是另一个可能的选择。
  • 他快速分享了几条影响他人与构建生活的方法。Hitch的经验是:想影响谁,就先和对方的伴侣成为朋友,因为“回家路上那段车程的力量”,决定了Simon最终会做什么。他的商业伙伴则提出“四个炉灶”模型:家庭、朋友、工作、健身,“你不可能同时让4个炉子都烧着”,只能同时保住两个。他的解法是雇用母亲和兄弟,并与最好的朋友一起工作:“4个变成2个。”这一切背后的不受欢迎的真相是:“大多数人嘴上说想要,但实际上不想付出所需的一切——那意味着每个周末都要工作。”他说自己每个周日都在工作,假期里尤其难熬,因为“你基本上是在凝视深渊,而深渊里什么也没有回望你。”
Simon Squibb

Harry, thanks for being here. Off camera, we were just talking about how you were 19 years old and made £1.5 million. Can you talk a little bit about that before we get into all the lessons you're going to teach us today?

Harry Stebbings

I very clearly remember my mother telling me that she had MS. She'd had MS for about 5 years, but the MS medication was $750,000. I had this useless podcast at the time, which had no listeners, and we can get to the importance of persistence.

1. The Million Dollar Cold Email

I thought, “Gosh, how do I leverage this to make money to pay $750,000 when I’d made no dollars?” I went up to my bedroom, emailed 25 of the biggest CEOs in technology, and said that their biggest competitors wanted to sponsor the podcast, but I was a fan of their product instead. Would they like to take it? I priced it at $95,000 each, just under the £100,000 procurement budget, and got 19 of them to say yes.

Simon Squibb

Oh, my God.

Harry Stebbings

That was $1.75 million in 24 hours.

Simon Squibb

That's unbelievable, and a great lesson about, frankly, creating FOMO and sales. I think sales should be taught in schools.

Harry Stebbings

Schools miss the 2 most important things, which are sales and public speaking. I totally agree with you. And also personality: everyone wants to work with someone they like.

At the end of every single email, I'd put, “P.S. I know that Macallan 75 is your favorite whiskey. I'd love to have one with you when you're next in London.”

The minute you add that, you literally treble your chances of getting a response.

Simon Squibb

It's effort, isn't it?

Harry Stebbings

Just a little better.

Simon Squibb

The people I've hired who have messaged me on things like LinkedIn have actually understood what I'm trying to do and then brought some value in the actual message they send me. They're not just saying, “Hi, Simon, I'd like to work with you because I can learn a lot,” which is great, but that's also just taking from me. It's such an important lesson in sales, isn't it? The attention to detail in everything is important.

Harry Stebbings

And so few do it. If you want to win, be a purple cow.

Simon Squibb

Yeah, of course. I love that whole thing.

Harry Stebbings

Just be different. It is so important.

Simon Squibb

You have interviewed—is it 101 decacorn founders? Something like that?

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

So, first of all, how did you manage to get 101 decacorn founders? Is it a similar thing—just persistence?

2. Mastering Cold Outbound

Harry Stebbings

Cold emailing is a real art. Good cold emails need to be short, concise, have a clear ask, and be personal.

Then you use social proof as your weapon. You can say, “I just interviewed Richard Branson, and I would love to have you on the show.” Who wouldn't want to be tied to the brand of Richard Branson and be in that same caliber? Very few entrepreneurs. It's like, okay. I use social proof as a weapon to encourage people that it was a good and strong environment they wanted to be associated with.

Simon Squibb

I love that. But it does make a big difference, right? When I started Fluid, I rang up a company outside this agency—no one knew it—and said, “Hi, I'm Fluid. I'd love to work with you.” They said, “No, sorry, we're busy.”

So I rang back and said, “Hi, I'm working with CNN, and I would love to work with you.” They went, “Oh, you're working with CNN? Sure, okay, come on in.” You just have to use that social proof.

Harry Stebbings

100%.

Simon Squibb

It's leverage. Some people don't like sales because they think it means being sneaky. You don't have to be sneaky about it. I think car-salesman vibes are what people think sometimes.

Harry Stebbings

At the end of every show, I would say to people, “Hey, who are 3 people that you think I should have on who would be fantastic?”

When people committed to the 3 names, I'd say, “If I send you an email that you can forward to them, would you mind making the introduction?” When people commit to the 3 names, they're committed to making that introduction.

You always want to create flywheels in any business, where one leads to more success. With every show, I got 3 more introductions.

Simon Squibb

Now, you said earlier something else off camera. I want people to know this: you raised $70 million on WhatsApp. Tell me a little bit about that. People might hear that and say, “Oh, just WhatsApp. How did you do that?” I think I know, but you should share how you did it.

3. Raising Funds On WhatsApp

Harry Stebbings

When we fundraise, we raise from very rich individuals, and we raise from institutions. In between sets in the gym, I would walk around during my 2-minute breaks and message individuals. I'd say, “Hey, I'm going out to raise a new fund, and I'd love to have you in.”

They would come back with, “Count me in for a million,” or, “Count me in for $2 million.” What people don't see is the 10 years of relationship building before that.

Harry Stebbings

But the most important lesson from that, actually, is that I always want people off email. Get people off email. People want to work with people they like. So at the end of calls and meetings, I always say, “Simon, I’m terrible at email. Let’s jump to WhatsApp.”

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Then, at the weekend, when I’m walking with my mom, I’ll send a photo of me and Mom eating a donut, and I’ll say, “God, loved our meeting this week. Next time, you’ve got to join us on our walk.” People resonate with people.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

So I build those relationships on WhatsApp unlike anyone else.

Harry Stebbings

Well, I think I’ve been building a relationship with you for 13 years. We actually first met—people might not even know; my audience is quite young. They might not know Periscope.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Right. I remember 13 years ago, I was hiking in Hong Kong. Periscope was one of the first live products, and I was live in Hong Kong when you came on my Periscope. You stood out instantly. You said, “Oh, I love this, Simon. I’m launching a podcast. I’d love to have you on.” I feel like for 13 years I’ve been following you ever since, and your rise and what you’ve done has been an inspiration.

Simon Squibb

Oh.

Harry Stebbings

Do you remember that?

Simon Squibb

I do. I do, actually. It takes me back. I remember Periscope and Meerkat were the 2 live-streaming products at the time, so I absolutely do remember that. I was so embarrassing in how I did so many things back then. I was so effusive with, “You’re the greatest entrepreneur I’ve ever met,” and so on.

Harry Stebbings

You didn’t say that to me. I don’t remember that, to be honest.

Simon Squibb

But the point of that is that people look at the successful people today and think, “I could never be that.”

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

It took years of hard work to get there. You have to go through prolonged periods of not being very good before you get to a certain stage. That’s why people don’t start. What I say is, just take the first step and you’re better than 99% of people.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

It’s like going to the gym. No one goes to the gym and says, “Treadmill, I love you, old friend.” It’s uncomfortable and hard, but by showing up every day, you get better and better.

Simon Squibb

People listening to this podcast might be thinking, “Well, Harry’s got a big following. Of course he can WhatsApp people and get money.” That’s why I like your 19-year-old story, because you didn’t have a big following then.

Harry Stebbings

I did not have a big following at all. I leveraged the ego and insecurity of famous and successful people to make money.

Simon Squibb

Right.

And you did something—you see, what I think with that case, with the whole needing to support your mom part of it, is that it wasn’t just that you wanted success; you needed it.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

I think that’s the only flip switch that people need to have. You didn’t just want it. You didn’t just want £1 million for the sake of it; you needed it.

Harry Stebbings

100%.

Simon Squibb

So that’s why it had to happen.

4. Chasing The First Million

Simon Squibb

I would also say: you should aggressively chase making your first million more than anything else, because the hardest to make is your first million, by far.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

The world also makes richer people get richer. I see this now. I’m fortunate that I have the posh banks that look after our money, and I get higher interest rates.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

I get better investment products.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

I get access to things that most other people can’t because I have money. But it feels wrong.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

The world is unfair and wrong. My advice would be to chase the first million, because it unlocks so much more than you could anticipate.

Harry Stebbings

That’s why I think starting young is quite important, because you can take more risks when you’re young. I know we’re both on the same train of this: university for 90% of people is a waste of time.

Simon Squibb

Totally.

Harry Stebbings

Four years of your life. Forget the money you can waste at university, but those 4 years are the years when you can sleep on a couch with friends, stay at home for a little bit longer, and take risks.

Simon Squibb

You also have the endurance. It is hard work being an entrepreneur, and you will have to work insane hours. I notice this now. I’m not as young as you are—

Harry Stebbings

I’m pretty young also. It’s not an offense.

Simon Squibb

—but I notice now that my stamina at 30 is not what it was at 20.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

Take advantage of being young.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

And being naive. But the biggest problem with the UK is that we are negative. Positive visualization is everything. I never doubted that this would work. This sounds arrogant, but I always knew I would be successful. It never dawned on me that it wouldn’t work.

Harry Stebbings

Mm.

Simon Squibb

When you visualize something, you make it much more likely to happen, on both the downside and upside. I think the trouble with the UK is that you say an idea and we go, “Oh, that’s not going to work. That’s not going to work.”

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

In America, people say, “That’s going to work.” We need much more positive visualization in the UK.

Harry Stebbings

How would you go about making that a reality in the UK? Do you think there’s a fix?

Simon Squibb

Yeah, I do. It’s why I started Project Europe, which is a $10 million fund that gives 200 grand to incredibly young people to do unreasonably ambitious things. We need more people to say yes to crazy dreams.

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

I think snootiness is another massive problem that we have in the UK. It’s like, “Oh, my gosh, why would you go from being a physicist at Cambridge to opening a bakery? That’s a bit beneath you.”

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

What happens if you open the most successful bakery in London? You document it, have amazing queues outside the corner, and then become the next Cédric Grolet—

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

—with bakeries in every city and every major country.

Harry Stebbings

Well, even if you just do it for a year and realize it wasn’t for you, at least you don’t live with regret.

Simon Squibb

100%.

Harry Stebbings

At least you tried, right? That’s—

Simon Squibb

My biggest failures turned into my biggest successes. Getting kicked out of boarding school for being bulimic led to my entire life. I would never have started the media company if I hadn’t been kicked out of boarding school. Just think about that.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

I would’ve been a mediocre lawyer.

Harry Stebbings

Well, I’m the same.

Simon Squibb

There’s nothing wrong with that, but—

Harry Stebbings

Bad luck turns into good luck over time if you leverage it right.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

But that’s where the individual comes in. Only you decide the next step, so make a positive decision. When shit happens, you can either accept it or progress and move on. I could have said, “Fuck, I’m bulimic. I don’t have a passion.”

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

You go—

Harry Stebbings

“Woe is you.”

Simon Squibb

“Woe is you.”

Harry Stebbings

You could have taken it as a reason not to go for it.

Simon Squibb

100%.

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

You decide the next step.

Harry Stebbings

Do you think that some people take what happens to them and make it positive, while others take it and make it negative? What do you think made you do that? Was it, for example, supporting your mom? Was it an external factor? What was it?

Simon Squibb

I think it was 2 things. First, having a mentor who could actually redirect me in the right way. Second, the ability to end the day.

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

What I mean by the ability to end the day is that when you have a bad day, you go to bed knowing—my mother always quoted Scarlett O’Hara from Gone with the Wind—

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

—which is, “Tomorrow’s another day.”

Harry Stebbings

Right.

Simon Squibb

Do not let the prior day impact the next day.

Harry Stebbings

Right.

Simon Squibb

Always come at it with a fresh mind. The “woe is me” of one day leading to another series of bad days is very dangerous. A big lesson for me is that if you have the ability to be miserable for no reason, you also have the ability to be excited and optimistic for no reason.

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

Embrace it.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah. I love that. I want to pick at the 19-year-old-you idea for a second, because what I’m tending to do when I give young people advice now is always talk about media.

Simon Squibb

Mm-hmm.

Harry Stebbings

It’s partly because I’m in media.

Simon Squibb

Mm-hmm.

Harry Stebbings

But also, I joined TikTok when I was 45 years old. All of my peers laughed at me. When I was on TikTok, I was around a table of other people who had sold their businesses. They were all buying property and doing these things. I said, “I’m going on TikTok and sharing knowledge,” and they laughed at me.

5. Content Builds Distribution

Simon Squibb

Now those same people ask me how to get TikTok working for their businesses. But what I'm getting to is that young people can't afford a house. It's too expensive. But on social media, you can make one video today, get 10 million views, sell a product, and make money.

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

It's the most amazing, incredible thing. I had to knock on doors when I started a business, literally. But you mentioned media is what you'd do straightaway, and I think it's important just to pick at it for a second, because a lot of people will be listening like, “Well, I don't know how to interview.” You weren't a great interviewer at the beginning, right?

Harry Stebbings

I was 18. I spent $50, and I bought a ice ball microphone on Amazon. That's what it's called. I was a terrible interviewer. Point being, you only get good by repeatedly doing it, and it took me 3 years before I probably got good.

Simon Squibb

Mm-hmm.

Harry Stebbings

It took me 4 years before I got 1,000 plays. Simon, you've been building this media empire now—

Simon Squibb

6 years. The first 3 years, nothing. Yeah, same.

Harry Stebbings

Oh, wow.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Okay. So, most people give up. This is a game of who can survive the longest.

Simon Squibb

Mm-hmm.

Harry Stebbings

And the lovely thing about content, Simon, is that if you fail, it's because no one cares. And if no one cares, no one will know that you failed. So why don't you do it anyway?

Simon Squibb

That's a great framework for people to go and apply to their lives.

Harry Stebbings

So true.

Simon Squibb

Yeah. And the truth is, no one gives a shit anyway. They'll laugh at you until they're no longer laughing, and then they'll be asking if they can come on your podcast. So, I used to think technology was going to be the barrier to entry to building businesses. I think now it's the ability to communicate, like you said, the ability to sell, and frankly, marketing.

Harry Stebbings

It's distribution.

Simon Squibb

Totally.

Harry Stebbings

Distribution is everything.

Simon Squibb

So if you can build distribution, and everybody can, it's kind of a commodity product. Anyone can jump on their phone and start creating a community.

Harry Stebbings

Well, this is why our venture funds are doing so well right now, which is because everyone has a venture capital fund today, sadly.

Simon Squibb

Mm-hmm.

Harry Stebbings

But not everyone has distribution. You know, I posted about one of our companies, Fixa, which is email autocomplete.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

And they're going to hate me for that, but it does your emails better than any other AI can do. I posted about them on LinkedIn, and they got $4 million in revenue from 1 LinkedIn post.

Simon Squibb

Crazy.

Harry Stebbings

For an investor to bring you $4 million from 1 post—

Simon Squibb

Yeah. Especially as most investors say they're going to bring you value, and they give you a bit of advice.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah. And—

Simon Squibb

You know, actual value. Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

That's actual value. And we have data to prove it. Very valuable. And so you're moving to a world where distribution is the biggest determinant of value.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

So I completely agree.

Simon Squibb

Sponsorship deals—

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

We were, again, talking a little bit off-camera about this. I have a feeling that you look at things like Facebook. It did such a great job of becoming a valuable company because it had all the attention. And then on top, apps came, like Snapchat and Instagram. Again, they drew all the attention. I think the next big platform is a creator, because, again, why would you promote someone else's brand if you can promote a brand you own? For example, I'm launching a competitor to Starbucks as part of my business model.

Harry Stebbings

Why Starbucks?

Simon Squibb

Why would I promote Starbucks, which I don't particularly believe in? They might have the money to sponsor me. They're not paying tax in the UK. In my opinion, the product is no longer good. Why wouldn't I start my own competitor to it?

Harry Stebbings

Completely agree with you.

Simon Squibb

It doesn't make sense to just take a small fee off them and then promote them, and they get the revenue every month from my marketing, right?

Harry Stebbings

Completely agree. I think people are companies today, and that's the big transition. Cristiano Ronaldo, CR7, is a brand as big as Starbucks or Coca-Cola, or you name it. He is a company; he's not a person anymore.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

And there is a stage where you get to where absolutely that is the case, and I think you saw it with MrBeast—

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

—where MrBeast started doing his own products. Now, I think you've got to be careful about the products that you choose. MrBeast did MrBeast Burger.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

Bad, and he'll say this himself—a bad product to choose, difficult to monitor quality, difficult delivery.

Simon Squibb

Clever scale mechanism, because he worked with outside partners, but quality control was a problem, right?

Harry Stebbings

Exactly. And so, I think you've got to choose your product well, but I 100% agree. There comes a scale where it doesn't make sense to promote someone else's—if you can promote your own.

6. Seven Lessons From Billionaires

Simon Squibb

So let's quickly, just very quickly, run through the 7 things that billionaires have taught you. Number 1, just say it in a sentence if you like.

Harry Stebbings

Lesson 1 is: never accept no for an answer. When I was fundraising, I got turned down by 2 people, and I emailed them back. I said, “I have missed $500 million of investments that would have returned $500 million because I thought the person was great, but I did not like the market that they were in. I fear you are making the same mistake right now. I will give you a call tomorrow morning, and we can have a chat.” I called both of them up the next morning, and one invested $5 million and the other invested $7 million. If you accept no, I would not have had $12 million there for the fund.

Simon Squibb

Unbelievable. So true. Next lesson?

Harry Stebbings

So important. Lesson 2: you have to continuously beat down the door. I emailed Marc Benioff from Salesforce 53 times.

Simon Squibb

I've heard about this.

Harry Stebbings

Every single Sunday. I would have blocked me. And so I emailed him 53 times. Every time, I put a new PS with a personalization: “PS, I hope the weather in X is nice. I knew you had a holiday home there. PS, I hope that you're enjoying the Macallan ’75. It's also my favorite.” Every single time, I would do it again and again and again, and never stopped. On the 53rd time, he responded and said he'd come on the show.

Simon Squibb

Was that instantly? He just said—what's the exact sentence? I'd love to know the exact reply. What was it? “Yeah, I'm in”?

Harry Stebbings

I think it was, “Yeah, I'm in.”

Simon Squibb

Yeah, I'm in. Oh.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah, I'm in. That was kind of it after 53. CC-ing my team.

Simon Squibb

Right. So sometimes people talk about this approach. For example, if you found out who his personal trainer was and connected with his personal trainer, so his personal trainer would mention you to him, like, “I was just listening to Harry on 20VC—”

Harry Stebbings

Very smart.

Simon Squibb

Were there any other strategies like that you've seen on the sales side?

Harry Stebbings

The one thing I would just say is that you always need to think about the next step in content. When Marc Benioff says, “I'm in,” after 53, do you know what I'm thinking? Fucking viral Twitter. Which is, “I emailed Marc Benioff 53 times.”

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

This is the email—

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

—that converted someone worth $100 billion to come on my podcast.

Simon Squibb

Yeah, that's great, because that keeps you going doing it too, right? “I've emailed him 100 times; he still hasn't replied.” It's also content.

Harry Stebbings

And then, do you know what else? Everyone goes, “Oh, wow, Marc Benioff's going on Harry's show. Harry's getting legit guests these days.” And then guess what? You can actually take it to the next Marc Benioff and be like, “Hey, look, I go viral with tweets like this,” and you get more social validity.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

Super important.

Simon Squibb

So important.

Harry Stebbings

Brilliant. Third thing?

I was terrible when I started. I was not charismatic. I sucked at interviewing people. But 99% of people never, ever start. I think the most important thing is just to take the first step. Activity drives outcomes. Most often, you don't actually know where it's going to end up, but you will never find out if you don't start.

Simon Squibb

True.

Harry Stebbings

Just start. Sell swimming trunks. You know what you're going to learn? No one wants them, but everyone wants cool goggles. That's the lesson that we take. Just start. I find, honestly, the biggest thing is, it won't work, so I don't start. 99%.

Simon Squibb

We use that one human skill we have, a special skill that no other animal has, which is the ability to predict the future.

Harry Stebbings

Mm-hmm.

Simon Squibb

And we use it against ourselves to predict a failure.

Harry Stebbings

100%.

Simon Squibb

Mental, isn't it?

Harry Stebbings

It's also 99% of the worries that you have have never happened.

Simon Squibb

Yeah, yeah. The upside is actually far greater than you think. You can't actually predict what's going to happen.

Harry Stebbings

Way greater. I could never have expected my life to be what it is. Ever.

Simon Squibb

100%, yeah.

Harry Stebbings

I think at this particular point, just for a second, it really blows my mind. When I first started doing videos on how to raise money, I was talking about how to find a co-founder. The videos were doing okay on the views—typical business content. They were doing average.

Then I thought, right, go into the street and ask people why they're not actually doing it. Most of the time, they're not even giving themselves the time to think of something. That's why “What's your dream now?” is pretty much a standard saying, by the way. When people meet each other now, they ask each other what their dream is. In schools, kids are asking themselves what their dream is.

That starting point of getting people to actually start is the hardest thing. Once you've started, I always hire someone as quickly as I can when I start something now, so then I've got someone I'm accountable to. If I don't hire someone, I've found I'm a bit lazy. I don't have to do it, so I won't do it. You need to keep yourself accountable.

When on Monday morning I've got a member of staff saying, “Simon, what are we doing this week?” I'm like, “Okay, I've got to go do it.”

Sometimes you have to burn the boats to encourage action, right? When I dropped out of university, I was a scholar at King's doing law. It was quite a credible career path that I was on.

Dude, I had to make it work. There was no option. I'd burnt the boats. I'd left university. I was going to have to go and work in a pub or be a waiter if I didn't make this podcast work.

Simon Squibb

Well, it must have been a big moment to leave—that decision to leave.

Harry Stebbings

It was. I remember very much, I got a call from a sponsor and they said, “We want to sponsor the show.”

Simon Squibb

How much was it?

Harry Stebbings

And I said, “How much is it?” They said, “It's $100,000.” They were like, “Fantastic. Send us over the paperwork.” I didn't know what the paperwork meant.

Simon Squibb

And there was no AI then either, you know.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah. But it goes to our point on the valueless nature of university.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

I just Googled contracts, and I built my own contract by Googling. That's what I used for this $100,000. But I went to my law professor and I said, “How much do you earn a year?” He said, “$82,000.” And I thought, “Okay. Well, that's my answer.”

Simon Squibb

There you go, yeah.

Harry Stebbings

So I called up my parents and I said, “I'm leaving university, and this is following my dream.”

Simon Squibb

You did another clever thing there that I want people to learn, which is that you can mitigate the risk of starting by getting 1 customer. You can tell a customer what you're going to do, and they can say yes, they'll do it if they have the service. Then you know you've got a customer if you commit to doing it.

Harry Stebbings

100%. You can be in a job and go to a customer and say, “Hey, I can completely revolutionize how you do hiring within your company using AI.”

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

And they're like, “Wow, we'd pay you $30,000 for that.”

Simon Squibb

Right.

Harry Stebbings

Great. Now you've got enough that you can leave. But that's also where it's helpful being young, because the cost is less before you have a family.

Simon Squibb

100%, yeah. 100%.

Harry Stebbings

Big one.

Simon Squibb

So, number 4.

Harry Stebbings

I think the biggest challenge is when you don't know what to do. I have 1 framework for when I have tough decisions. Think of someone who you deeply respect and admire, and whose life you would want.

For me, it's Pat Grady at Sequoia. Three reasons: great father, great investor, great husband. Whenever I'm faced with a tough decision, I ask, “What would Pat do in this case?”

It generally always leads me to make the right and honorable decision when I might have otherwise made a different decision.

Simon Squibb

Got it. Number 5, what?

Harry Stebbings

I think a big problem that young people have today is, “What do you want to be?” “Rich.” I think money does make you happy, absolutely, but chasing money will not lead to money. I chased money for a few years when I was very young, and it did not lead to happiness or even outcomes. When you enjoy the art of doing, the money is the output.

I remember, to be fair, when I made my first million, I was very lonely. I remember sitting on my balcony in Fulham, where I lived, with a bottle of tequila and a packet of cigarettes. I thought I could buy any table in any club. The only challenge was, “Simon, I don't have any friends to bring to that table.”

I looked at my bank balance, which had a million in it, and I was like, “This doesn't feel like the Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? moment, when the confetti's coming down and it's this glorious—” I was very unhappy at that moment.

It taught me something really important, actually, which is to ask yourself a very simple question: What truly makes you happy in life? What truly makes you happy?

For me, it's walking around Hyde Park with my mother and getting an espresso. The espressos are £2.80, so for a good £5.60 you'll be good to go on your 2 espressos. That is my happiest moment. Period. So £5.60 is my happiness.

Simon Squibb

Okay, that's good to know.

Simon Squibb

I think that digging deep into yourself to understand what makes you happy is a really powerful point. I like building. I like having a mission.

I also always think about the audience sitting listening to 2 people who have money and have made money. A lot of my audience haven't made money yet. Hearing that whole point about money, you've said 2 different things: one earlier about how money does bring happiness, which it totally does. I completely agree. But also how money in itself is not enough.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Right?

Simon Squibb

It's like, don't chase it.

Harry Stebbings

Don't chase it. I think the nuance of this that, again, I don't want anyone to miss is that you've got to have a center, right? I see your post about you going to see your mum. You always do it.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Because you know that's your happy place.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Building a business isn't always happy. We're not always happy, right? But you've got to have that happy place. You've got to allocate time to the happy place, right?

Simon Squibb

You know what's so funny? I get people in my DMs who are angry about my mother posts.

Harry Stebbings

Really?

Simon Squibb

Yeah. “Why do you do them? Why do you do them? Why do you do them?”

Harry Stebbings

Please block those people.

Simon Squibb

And do you know what I find so funny? I also get 50 or 60 or 70 people who are like, “I called my mum today to tell her that I loved her.”

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

“And she was so happy because of that.” That's why I do it.

Harry Stebbings

Those posts really resonate with me personally. A little bit, I live my life through you in that post, in that moment. That close relationship with your mum is special. I think it's quite a nice way of showing the human side to someone successful.

Simon Squibb

That's the amazing thing with content, though: people can build a relationship with you when they've never met you before. I have so many of the biggest CIOs of the biggest institutions in the world who will come onto a call and be like, “I love your post with your mum. By the way, I love how you're so open about eating disorders.”

And I'm like, “Fantastic. Who are you?” It's a great way to pre-sell, to have content as your relationship builder at scale.

Harry Stebbings

True. I was going to say that earlier when you were talking about having a mentor.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

You don't necessarily need to have someone who's going to sit down with you every day. You can literally see someone whose life you like. They've got, as you say, a good marriage, a good business, and good ethics. You can just follow their content.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

You can make them your mentor without them even realizing it.

Simon Squibb

100%.

Harry Stebbings

People don't realize that, though. A lot of the time I get DMs—I'm sure you do too. I pretty much get 100 DMs a week where someone says, “Please be my mentor.” I'm like, “I've made content for you. Let's pretend I am your mentor. Here's a load of content for you to go and watch. Feel free to follow me and see what's going on.”

Mentorship has got people a bit confused. They think they need to sit down with that person and have one-on-one conversations all the time, but the best mentors haven't got time for that.

Yeah, I agree. It's almost like dating: the best way to attract your partner is to work on yourself—

Simon Squibb

Right.

Harry Stebbings

—and make yourself someone that people would want to be partnered with.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

If you want to be a mentee of mine, make yourself someone that I would want to mentor.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

Or mentor.

Simon Squibb

Yeah. What I like as well is the line, “I only hire people that I would work for.”

Harry Stebbings

Right.

Simon Squibb

So then it's a two-way street of learning as well, right?

Harry Stebbings

The only challenge is I'd never work for anyone.

Simon Squibb

Yeah. Well, that's the thing. I've got a team. I've got 41 people in the team. Every single one of them could start their own business. So there's something really interesting in bringing all entrepreneurs together to work together.

As someone who doesn't want to work for someone, a lot of these people wouldn't traditionally work for someone.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah.

Simon Squibb

I think if you have a similar mission, it's the whole, “I'd rather have 5% of Facebook than 100% of MySpace.” Right? There's something also in the whole balancing act. You just have to let people have their own space, I guess, their own areas as entrepreneurs.

Harry Stebbings

Totally. But also, the biggest way to make money as a young person is just to work harder than anyone else.

Simon Squibb

True.

Harry Stebbings

If you work really, really hard and you have the time as a young person, you will inherently increase your chances of being successful significantly.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

Most young people—and this is the truth that will make me unpopular—most people say they want to make money, and most people say they want to be successful. You don't understand the commitment. It's every weekend.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

It is absolutely relentless.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

Most people say they want it, but they actually don't want what it takes.

Simon Squibb

I saw a post from you a little while ago where you worked every Sunday for 12 years or something like that.

Harry Stebbings

Yeah, I have done.

Simon Squibb

I think the thing is, again, it links back to how all this stuff links together. If you enjoy it, you won't call it work. Work's a weird word. To some people, the word work is a very negative thing: “I've got to go to work.” To me, I love work. I've always loved work.

Harry Stebbings

I've only ever done work since I was 17. I don't like holidays, and people are like, “Oh, it's because you're a hustle-culture bro.”

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

The honest truth is I really struggle on holidays because I'm forced not to be at work.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

Work is such a huge part of who I am that you basically stare into the abyss and you don't have anything staring back at you.

Simon Squibb

True.

Harry Stebbings

It's very uncomfortable.

Simon Squibb

Talking about holidays, behind the scenes, folks, before we sat down here together, Harry was sitting with Phoebe Gates, Bill Gates’ daughter, and doing a podcast. I went to New York on holiday and then ended up meeting her and doing a podcast together. That's my ideal holiday, to be honest.

Harry Stebbings

Right.

Simon Squibb

Go to a city, see it, meet great people, do cool stuff, and make content that helps people. That is a holiday. But to most people, it's, “Didn't you have any time off?” I'm like, “Yeah, I went to New York.”

Harry Stebbings

I totally agree. My business partner always correctly tells me that life is like a cooker in a kitchen. There are 4 hobs that you turn on. There's family, friends, work, and fitness.

Simon Squibb

Mm-hmm.

Harry Stebbings

Family, friends, work, and fitness. The trouble is, you can only keep 2 on at the same time.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

So I've got a hack for you. I hired my family. My mom and my brother work for me. Fitness, I always hold true. I work with my best friends and my partners in my business. So 4 become 2.

Simon Squibb

100%.

Harry Stebbings

And then I keep the work.

Simon Squibb

This is a brilliant hack. I would say I work while I'm on the treadmill, so you can do exercise and work at the same time, right? I'm actually looking at maybe investing in a gym, because then I can go with my team to the gym. Why can't you combine these things? I've heard that saying too, and I love the point about combining things.

Harry Stebbings

You know, another big problem that young people face is they think that you have to have innovative ideas.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

I know that sounds ridiculous. What are you talking about? But very often you can just take something that works and make it 10 or 20% better.

Simon Squibb

Mm-hmm.

Harry Stebbings

“Ooh, I love that cafe, but I've always wondered why they don't do really Instagrammable cakes.” The coffee's great, and the location's great. Making something 10 or 20% better can very often create a great, successful business.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

You reinvented the VC model thinking that way, to be honest. You took the existing VC model, which works. Many people make a lot of money out of it and help a lot of businesses succeed, and you reinvented it with the media side—

100%.

Simon Squibb

—because no one was doing that.

Harry Stebbings

Distribution.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

No one was doing it.

Simon Squibb

Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

It's the power of being first.

Simon Squibb

Yeah. I just think that people, if you look at brands like Liquid Death, are reinventing the existing. Everyone is trying to come up with a brand-new idea, and they're not starting until they've got the biggest new idea. I'm reinventing education, so I'm taking the broken education system and I'm reinventing it. It's not a genius idea, is it? Education in general wasn't a new thing, was it?

Harry Stebbings

I would say you're a great example, though, of innovative content. A big problem that I see with a lot of people making content is they're like, “I'm going to do 1-on-1 interviews with entrepreneurs,” and they just copy what works and think that'll do it.

What made yours very successful, I think, is a very innovative hook, respectfully, which is you go up to people on the street and say, “What's your dream?”

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

I'm like, “Fuck, I'm in.” What's this? People need to be a lot more creative around the content that they create and not just copy what works.

Simon Squibb

That's true. But back to a point earlier, it's an iteration. I started out with a typical podcast, and then I went into the street eventually. I originally said, “What business would you start?” Which isn't a great hook, is it? And I realized that wasn't quite working.

It wasn't like I was a genius and sat there one day with this big, massive plan. I just literally executed every day until it got better and better. That's the part of it.

Harry Stebbings

The defensibility of a company is the daily processes that you create and maintain, sustained over long periods of time. It's rarely actually the product. The product is the output.

It's the way that we create thumbnails. It's the way that we create hooks. It's the way that we create short-form. It's the way that we do long-form. It's all of the little things that come together to do the big thing.

My dear friend is the CEO of Spotify, Gustav Söderström, and he says, “The details are not the details. They are the product.”

Simon Squibb

Mm. I love that. All this stuff could be on T-shirts. Let's finish up our list. Number 6. Number 6.

Harry Stebbings

I just think too many people worry that the vision that they have is too ambitious. It's too hard. “I can't re-educate the world and change people from going to university to starting their own business. It's too unattainable.”

It's like a marathon. Break it down. Focus on the short term, the next milestone that you can hit. Only when you hit that do you unlock the next. I think people need to focus very much on more achievable goals that will unlock new ones.

Simon Squibb

So true. I'm trying to fix the education system, and I'm making 1 TikTok a day to make that happen.

Harry Stebbings

Fantastic.

Simon Squibb

That's it.

Harry Stebbings

But if I said to you, “You're going to shift a trillion dollars of education spend,” you're like, “Well, Jesus. Okay.”

Simon Squibb

It's in 6 years. Next year, I'm doing that.

Harry Stebbings

That's—

Simon Squibb

But this year, I'm just making 1 TikTok a day that helps people learn business.

Harry Stebbings

100%.

Simon Squibb

So, number 7?

Harry Stebbings

Yeah. I always think of Hitch. Have you seen Hitch?

Simon Squibb

Yes, I have. Yeah.

Harry Stebbings

There's a scene with Albert Brennaman where he's trying to woo the woman he's chasing, and the lesson is always: make the best friend like you.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

The power of pillow talk is incredibly real. At the end of the day, a partner's statements about someone will very often impact their decision.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

So whenever I go to a dinner or a drinks party or whatever, the partner of the person that I want to influence will be my best friend.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

'Cause the power of the car journey home is what dictates what Simon actually does.

Simon Squibb

That's actually so true.

Harry Stebbings

When your wife goes, "Harry was so lovely. Everyone kind of focused on you, but he spent so much time—he asked about the kids."

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

"He was really great."

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

"So I'd spend more time with him, Simon."

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

You're like, "Hmm, interesting."

Simon Squibb

I think that, again, the thing that people—okay, so I went to Saudi recently. As a country that a lot of people have an opinion on, I wanted to go see for myself what it was and what was going on there.

The guy who picked us up at the airport, I originally thought, "Oh, he's their driver just picking us up." So he picks us up, we go to the hotel lobby, and he's literally opening the door for me like a chauffeur. Then he helps me to the counter and tells the person, "Simon Squibb's here," and signs all these documents.

I really liked him, so I was just genuinely being nice to him. Anyway, it turns out he's Will Smith's right-hand man, and he's connected to all these celebrities. He was being really humble with me at the airport, with the sign saying "Simon Squibb," and opening the door. This guy's so connected, and I didn't realize he was this connected until 3 days into the trip.

At the end of the trip, he said, "Oh, Simon, connect on Instagram." He gave me his Instagram, and suddenly I saw all these friends and all these relationships he's got. I was so pleased with myself that I'm genuinely trying to be nice to everybody. I'm not treating the person who I think is my chauffeur badly. People make that mistake. You just never know. Always be polite, people.

Harry Stebbings

The single biggest way to increase your happiness is to ask for 2 people's names. For me, it's the barista in my favorite coffee shop and the receptionist in my gym.

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

Two people you have the highest frequency of contact with on a daily—

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

'Cause every day you go and see them, and saying, "Hey, what's your name? I'm so sorry I missed it. Your name's Amy. Great. I'm Harry." Cool. The next day, "Amy, how are you?" "Oh, I'm good, Harry. How are you?"

Simon Squibb

Mm.

Harry Stebbings

You will increase happiness so significantly with those 2 little changes.

Simon Squibb

I think, to conclude, I'm gonna call you my patient zero over What's Your Dream. You made it happen, and you made it happen with sheer willpower, and I'm so grateful you've come on this podcast today and shared your knowledge. You're super smart.

Harry Stebbings

Dude, thank you so much for having me. Really appreciate it.

Simon Squibb

Appreciate you.